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Nutrition as a form of self-care

I want to get personal with you for a few minutes – hope you don’t mind if I imagine we’re cozy in my living room together, hands cupped around warm mugs of coffee or tea.

Self-care is something I really struggle with. I spent 10 years as a single mother, and then I got married in 2010 to a wonderful man who very quickly slid down the slippery slope of alcoholism. Between his addiction and the stress of a blended family, plus the addition of our own babies, I almost lost myself completely. (He’s sober now, by the way – about a year and a half – but it’s been a very hard journey)

In 2011, when my son was 3 mos old, I saw a dermatologist for my skin. I have always struggled with acne prone skin, but it was out of control then. I was having a hard time wanting to leave my house because I felt so embarrassed. He advised me to quit breastfeeding so he could put me on a drug similar to Accutane and that was that. I left the office in tears, unsure of what to do.

Once I was home, I knew there had to be a better way. I started doing some research and began learning how our food affects our bodies, and our skin! That very day I ditched refined sugars and flours, and after a few weeks, I was sold. I couldn’t believe how much better I felt – I had energy for days, I was happier, more clear headed, my skin cleared up and I ended up dropping 15 lbs without exercising. I knew I had figured out something really important.

Because my personal life was so hard and chaotic, making time for the typical kinds of self care just wasn’t going to work. Most days I couldn’t even get 15 minutes alone, much less use that time on myself. So I began to focus on what I could change, and that was how I fueled my body. I credit good nutrition for so many things. When my 3rd child was born with several issues and didn’t sleep through the night for 2 years, I did my very best to continue to fuel my body well so I was better equipped to handle the stress.

Experiencing how good, healthy foods changed my life led me down my current career path of health coaching.

In fact, I think nutrition is one of the most critical components of self-care. If you aren’t fueling yourself well, the other things will only get you so far. But a good diet will offer you clearer thinking, better sleep, more stamina for exercise, better skin just to name a few. The mantra I use all the time with my clients is: Progress, not perfection. It can be so tempting to throw in the towel after a bad day or even one bad meal. No one is perfect, and one bad meal will not ruin your life. Just get back up, dust yourself off and make the best decisions you can make. Every choice you make is either moving you closer to your goals or further away.

So, here are my top 3 tips for upping your nutrition game:

—–> DRINK WATER – I know, I know. Everyone talks about this. But it truly is so important. You should be aiming for half your body weight in ounces every single day. This is the hardest one for me, y’all! Ugh, drinking water is not fun for me – if I could I’d be hitting up the coffee pot all day long, but I make an effort every day to drink all my water. Our bodies NEED water, so get to chugging!

—–> EAT MORE PLANTS – No, I’m not asking you to be a vegetarian! (Unless you want to be!) But a good rule of thumb is to eat more plants. Smoothies are a fantastic way of getting a lot of fruits and veggies in, first thing in the morning. If you are not a fan of the idea of cutting certain foods out of your life, try adding MORE fruits and veggies. You’ll be surprised at the difference it will make.

—–> EAT MORE FAT – Yep, I want you to eat MORE fat. It might go against everything you’ve ever heard about being healthy but kick the low-fat, low-cal processed foods to the curb. If you’re filling up on whole foods, and lots of plants, adding in some good healthy fats to your day is so beneficial. Avocados, nuts, coconut oil, pasture raised eggs – fat is so important for our bodies to function well. In fact, a few months ago I hit a weight loss plateau (working on losing baby weight from baby #4!) and I increased my fat intake and lost 7 lbs in 2 weeks. Don’t be afraid of eating the right kind of fat.

Nutrition doesn’t have to be scary. Try new foods, experiment with what you like and don’t like and make food fun! Give yourself 21 days of incorporating more water, plants and healthy fat into your diet and I guarantee you’ll be feeling great!

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0 In Beckett/ Declan/ Family

Our 5 Day No TV experiment


On Monday, I decided to try eliminating the TV from our daily routine.

I know, some of you are already there – with no cable or TV, or super limited screen time. We had been there once upon a time, but little by little bad habits grew and grew and pretty soon I realized I was relying on the TV for way too much. And on top of that, my kids were throwing such a royal fit when I would turn the TV off that sometimes I let them watch for too long to avoid the battle.


I knew that I was using the TV as a crutch and to avoid arguments and just to get some peace and quiet but ultimately it would end every time in an epic battle of the wills and I. Was. Over. It.

Not to mention, a certain little 5 year old who shall not be named was demonstrating some really obstinate, mouthy and at times downright disrespectful behavior. Little brother was quickly following suit so I knew I had to make some adjustments to our daily schedule. I suspected TV was at the root of a lot of issues.

Even when the TV was off, they seemed almost incapable of playing independently and were horrified at the idea of being outside – to the point that there would be great weeping and wailing and screaming if I shoved them out the door to play in our beautifully landscaped, fenced in and flat backyard. SERIOUSLY y’all. I’m kind of surprised my neighbors haven’t called DSS to complain about the little boys who screamed like they were being tortured.

You see my point…I know there are children who can use screen time moderately and don’t put up a huge fight when screen time is done. I’ve seen it with my own eyes, so I know those kids are out there. But those are not my kids. My children (one in particular) absolutely cannot be moderate with screens and will not turn them off without a huge huge HUGE battle.

I wanted my kids to be KIDS again. I wanted them to enjoy the feeling of dirt under their feet, to experience the joy of collecting treasures from the backyard. I wanted them to pick up the trains they love so much and use the train table that has gotten dusty, to find their little imaginations and use them.

5 days of no TV and we have survived it. And you know what, for the most part it hasn’t been too bad. The biggest struggle (for me) was what to do with them when I needed to shower or put Harper down for a nap during the day. I used to plunk them on my bed and turn on the TV so I knew they’d stay put and not get in trouble.

On Monday we went to Target and picked up supplies for activity boxes. These boxes ONLY come out when I need to be doing something else in another room or during quiet time (1pm-3pm) We picked up dry erase flash cards for writing practice, a travel sized dry erase board with washable dry erase markers, a matching game, washable crayons and a big pad of paper, a sticker book with reusable stickers. Then I filled 2 boxes with cars and trains to pull out as needed. It’s been so helpful when I need to shower to pull out those boxes and know they’ll stay occupied while I can’t keep an eye on them.

And the attitudes? Have VASTLY improved. They’ve been playing relatively well together, and pulling out their cars and trains. I found Beckett the other night on the couch with a book and a snack and the biggest shock of all? Once their little brains weren’t constantly being bombarded with the flashy television, they have BOTH voluntarily laid down during quiet time and FALLEN ASLEEP.

You know how many times my boys generally nap? Basically never. I actually thought they might be getting sick, but nope. Just CALM.

Calm. They were calm. We went for a walk the other night as a family and my normally wild man Beckett was thoughtful and quiet as we walked. So thoughtful and quiet that I asked him several times if he was ok. He said yep, just wanted to be quiet.


And it’s been a great motivator for me to get up and out the door with them before 9am so we can have the playground to ourselves for awhile before it gets busy and too hot.

It has been a huge eye opener to me just how much television affects MY kids and how much better we are without it around. I told the boys we’d try to reintroduce a little bit of it this weekend, because I’d like to use it OCCASIONALLY but I’m a little worried about being able to actually use it moderately so I came up with a summer schedule to hang on the fridge! This way they know that TV will start and end by a certain time. Fingers crossed it helps. If not, we plan to say bye bye permanently!


Beckett is really into reading and telling time lately so I think this will be a hit around here. It’s good for him to be able to see what time he can do certain activities and he is already loving being able to help move the magnets around depending on the day.

I am probably the least likely mama to ever create a daily schedule for my kids – I hate rules, I hate routine, I hate having to follow schedules but even I recognized the need to get a little stability in our lives. I guess by the time child #4 comes around you kind of have to accept a new way of things.

If you want to use our summer schedule, you can find the printable here! I printed mine on magnet paper that I found at Michaels and just cut out each magnet. Easy! I even left some blank so you can write in your own. We laminated a few, which makes them dry erase friendly! 

0 In Healthy/ Nutrition/ Pathways to Wellness

My 21 Day Program


On June 20th, I’m starting a 21 Day Health RESET program for those interested in improving their overall health. I thought it would be helpful to answer some of the most commonly asked questions I’ve been getting before we get started!

Will I lose weight? Probably, although the intention of this program is not specifically geared towards weight loss. There are so many other factors to being healthy that don’t start and end with the number on your scale or the size of your jeans. Things like feeling tired all the time, being foggy headed, struggling with acne, headaches, migraines, eczema or rashes, having digestion or tummy problems, weird and unexplained aches and joint pains – all of these things are very often directly related to the way we nourish our bodies. That said, there is a good probability you’ll lose weight during these 21 days.

How much does this cost? Just $25!

Will I need to be a millionaire to pay for the foods required? NO. I just sent out an email to everyone who has already signed up to address this fear. While there are some instances where organic is best, this is not allowed to exclude ANYONE from this group. I’d rather you eat conventional produce than no produce at all. We are going to be talking about this more as we move forward. Please do not let this idea keep you from making changes to your health.

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Can I do this if I’m pregnant and/or breastfeeding? Health coaching services should NEVER override the advice of your physician so always check with he or she first. You will not be restricting calories on this program, and additional snacks or portions can be added to help those who are pregnant and/or breastfeeding but always check with the doc first. This program only uses real, whole foods and will not use processed foods, shakes, pills or supplements so in that way it is perfectly safe.

So…are you sure there is nothing special I will have to buy after I enroll? You may have to look for foods at the grocery store that you’ve never purchased before – but I am absolutely not going to ask you to purchase anything from me. Sometimes I may suggest something like a probiotic or multivitamin but I am not selling anything or working with a company. You are free to pick and choose what/who you buy from and I’m happy to offer guidance on how to read labels but the only money I’m making is from the $25 you pay when you register. I PROMISE.

Am I going to have to join a gym? Nah 😉 We will be incorporating some movement into this 21 days – but it’s really your choice what you want to do. I recommend 20-30 minutes a day of activity at least, whether it’s a walk or jog or a video in your living room. We’ll also have some fun little challenges each week but you don’t need to worry about unrealistic fitness goals. Right now we are focusing on how we feel and making changes to feel better by the end of the 21 days.

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I want to join, but I can’t this month. Will you be doing this again? Yes, that’s the plan! This is the only round that I can guarantee the $25 registration fee, but I will always work to keep the cost low so as many people as possible have access to education and information about their health.

I want to learn more about nutrition, but it’s so overwhelming to me.  Hey, I get it. The field of nutrition is always changing. In my eyes, that’s a GOOD thing. Our bodies are complex and miraculous in so many ways. I love that there are experts in the field of nutrition who are continually learning and adjusting. My job for these 21 days is to help you through this process and offer up my coaching services at a fraction of the cost. I’ve told the current participants to take advantage of that!

What is Pathways to Wellness KIDS? When I became a certified health coach, I went through training specific to helping families with children eliminate processed foods and make better choices. My kids and I have started a YouTube channel where we share some kid-friendly and healthy recipes, and I thought it would be fun to include your kids for this 21 days. I created a program for them that incorporates L.E.A.N. principles (Lifestyle, Exercise, Attitude and Nutrition) and includes 21 days of ‘challenges’, a sticker chart and a sticker printable for only $5. It’s a great way to give them small and healthy goals for a few weeks this summer! My kids are going to be joining me!

Please join us! It’s going to be fun and I can’t wait!

For more information please visit my website or click here to find the program download.



0 In Just For Fun

Snapchat Tutorial


I promised my sister I would make her a snapchat tutorial since you know, I am somewhat of an expert these days on Snapchat.

Kidding, kidding.

I have to credit my friend Shaunna for getting me hooked on it – I didn’t get it for a long time. I couldn’t understand why anyone would prefer making 10 second long videos instead of texting? I mean, huh? And the app itself is not at all user friendly so it (seriously) took me playing around with it off and on for like 6 months before it finally clicked. I even mentioned it recently in my favorite things post. So what is Snapchat? It’s an app that allows you to post or send pictures and videos in 10 second long increments. Once they’re viewed, they disappear forever. (Supposedly) You can replay a few times if you miss something, but then Snapchat will ask you to pay for replays.

Here’s why I love it now:

  • it’s a real life look at what your friends are doing. There’s no perfectly staged and edited pictures like on other social media channels
  • I have 4 kids. Which means, it can sometimes be hard for me to text. But a 10 second video to get a thought out there and sent off to a friend? Yeah, I can do that
  • Ok I know that Snapchat is super popular with the young folk but us mamas have a need for it too. Some days we are stuck inside with kids and it is REALLY FREAKING NICE to hear other adult voices, even if it’s through a phone. Yeah, real life coffee dates and playdates are waaaaay better but that’s not always doable.
  • I follow a few celebrities on Snapchat that are REALLY funny. I mean really funny. And it’s been fascinating to me to see that hey, even celebs waste time on social media like us normal folk. Kate Hudson and Reese Witherspoon use the funny face filters too, which makes me feel basically like I’m practically famous.
  • The filters ARE fun and even my kids get in on it from time to time

Ok, now that I’ve rambled on long enough about why I’m a fan, here is a quick and hopefully helpful tutorial!

Step 1

Head over to the app store and download this bad boy.FullSizeRender (14)Step 2

Click Sign Up and enter your email address. It’ll then prompt you to enter your password and date of birth. Once that’s done, you’ll enter a username. Your actual username cannot be changed EVER (at least for now!), so make sure it’s something you will feel ok with for the long haul. You can change the name that people see on their screens, but the name people use to find you stays as is. (Mine is mirandahahn1 – come follow me!)

I used an old email address for the purpose of this tutorial. Don’t send me an email there, I never check it!



Step 3

Snapchat will now ask you to verify your phone number. You can skip this, it’ll just ask you to verify that you’re a real live person by choosing images that contain a ghost.


Step 4

You can find your friends who are currently using Snapchat by allowing the app to access your contacts. Then you can add the people you want to by tapping the +Add button to the right of their names.

Step 5

Here is the ‘home screen’ so to speak. Don’t be scared, you’ll soon understand what each icon does. Ready?


  1. This is easy, just the flash icon. You can use this to…turn on your phone’s flash. You’re welcome. That little moon icon next to it is supposed to make it easier to snap in the dark.
  2. That’s the icon that helps you flip your camera forward facing if you want to selfie the day away. You can also double tap your phone screen to flip the camera. I find myself trying this when I’m not snapchatting, just using my iPhone camera and yeah…it doesn’t work for the iPhone. haha. Get on that, will ya Apple?
  3. The ghost icon. You can tap here to add friends, see who has added you, check out your trophy case (we’ll get to that another day), update your settings, etc.
  4. This is your record button. Press once to snap a pic, press and hold continuously to record a 10 second video. When you let go, it will stop recording
  5. This is the notifications of how many messages you have from friends
  6. This icon takes you to your friends “stories” – we’ll get to that in a second!

Step 6

 Send your first snap to a friend!snapchattutorial

Ok, don’t be overwhelmed. It’ll get easier 😉

  1. This is pretty self explanatory. Deletes or closes your current screen/pic/video
  2. Tap here to get access to all of Snapchat’s emoji’s and stickers
  3. Tap here to add text. Tap a second and a third time to change size, center, etc. Play around with it!
  4. Tap here to use your finger/stylus as a pen to draw on the screen. You can adjust color here too.
  5. This is where you can set how many seconds you want your still pictures to be up on the screen. Choose from 1-10 seconds
  6. This downloads/saves whatever is on the screen to your phone’s camera roll. It comes in handy when you snap a good picture and don’t want to lose it into the black hole of Snapchat
  7. Tap this to add your current picture/video to the “My Story” function (still going to get to that!)
  8. Tap this arrow to send to a friend. This will bring you to your list of friends and you can choose here who you want to send it to.

Step 7

Add a picture/video to the “My Story” function

What is “My Story”?

This is one of my favorite features of Snapchat. All of the people you follow can add videos and pictures to their Stories throughout the day. It’s like watching a mini video of your favorite people! Stories are up for 24 hours and then they disappear.


  1. That’s where all your video clips/pictures will go if you tap the + sign to add them to your story
  2. This is where all your friend’s stories are!

And finally, if you want to use filters – you can swipe to the left/right on your screen AFTER you’ve taken a picture but BEFORE you’ve sent it along to a friend or uploaded it to your story. There are some different colored filters, a filter for the time, the temperature, maybe your location if you’re special, a fast forward and a slow motion (My boys really love that one) and a reverse.

To utilize the face filters (not sure if that’s the technical term…pretty sure not) you’ll want to tap the screen and hold your finger down on the image of your face for a few seconds. Once it focuses on your face, you’ll see a row of face filters to choose from at the bottom of the screen. (You’ll do this BEFORE you take a picture or video, which is a little different than the filters you swipe to access)

This one is maybe my current favorite. Look at that fantastic highlighting and contouring job! Nice one, Snapchat.


This one is pretty good too though. Haha. My kids looooove these.

There are a few other features Snapchat offers, but this tutorial is getting long and should be enough to get you up and running! Are you on Snapchat? Did I forget anything major?

0 In Dairy Free/ Nutrition/ Recipe

Homemade Cashew Milk


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I have always hated cows milk – even as a child. This is going to sound crazy, but it just always reminded me of…cows.


But seriously, it has always grossed me out! Now, knowing what I know about dairy’s inflammatory properties we are a mostly non dairy home. I do like to have something on hand to throw into smoothies or give the kids if they’re bored with water. I generally purchase an almond milk brand that I know has decent ingredients because it’s quick and convenient but making non dairy milk is actually pretty easy.

It has been awhile since I’ve made my own and these days our favorite non dairy milk is cashew milk. When I saw a couple of cashew milk recipes online I knew I wanted to give it a try because it’s much simpler than making almond milk.

In truth, making milk from nuts is not complicated really, but cashews get soft enough that you don’t need to strain the pulp – which makes it even faster and easier and right up my alley. And I get to see exactly what I’m putting into this milk which ALWAYS makes me happy. #foodnerd


Cashews are one of my favorite nuts to snack on, and cashew milk is really yummy. It’s creamy and flavorful and full of good nutrients like iron, potassium, zinc, magnesium, phosphorus and good healthy fat. Give it a try – I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised.

If you don’t have a high powered blender like a Vitamix, and can’t get the cashews blended well enough, you can strain with cheesecloth to get the small pieces out.

Homemade Cashew Milk


  • 1 c. raw, organic cashews
  • 3-4 c. filtered water
  • 1 T organic maple syrup or raw honey
  • 2 tsp vanilla
  • dash of sea salt
  • dash of cinnamon


  1. Start by soaking your cashews in a bowl of water. I use just enough water to cover the cashews, cover with a clean dish towel and let sit in the refrigerator over night. You'll want to soak them for at least 4 hours but overnight is best.
  2. After soaking, strain cashews with mesh strainer and rinse with cool water until the water runs clear
  3. Place cashews in blender with 2 cups of filtered water
  4. Blend slowly and increase speed until cashews are blended well (Takes around 2 min in a high powered blendered)
  5. Add 1-2 more cups of water (Less water will result in creamier consistency)
  6. Add sweetener, vanilla, salt + cinnamon
  7. Store in glass container in fridge for up to 4 days
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Friday Favorites

I thought it would be fun to share a few things I have been loving lately. FridayFaves


  1. Snapchat: Ok, I was late to the party on this one. When my friend Shaunna suggested I get it, I tried it out for 3.7 seconds before deciding I hated it. It wasn’t user friendly at all and I didn’t understand why anyone would choose video over text. Thankfully, I persisted (I’m stubborn like that) and it’s quickly becoming one of the most used apps on my phone. Instagram is my favorite social media because I love beautifully curated accounts BUT Snapchat provides the most real and up to date look at people’s lives. It’s in the moment, as you are, messy house and crying kids and all. So if you’re on the fence, try it out. And follow me! (mirandahahn1)
  2. Burts Bees Citrus + Ginger body wash: It smells so good, y’all.
  3. Frankincense oil: I am not recommending YL or any other brand of oil here, as I don’t understand fully the ins and outs of the oil world and I do my own research and make decisions based on my own levels of comfort BUT I personally use YL brand of Frankincense on my face. It’s pricey, I’m not going to lie – but I use just a drop or two of it mixed with a pump of Acure argan oil every night before bed. I love it. I ran out of it for a few months, and finally got around to replacing it and I realized pretty quickly how much it helps my skin.
  4. The new Oh She Glows app: also kind of pricey for an app (4.99) but Angela’s food photography is gorgeous and her recipes are on point. I’ve been following her blog for years, and have her first cookbook so the app was a no brainer. And if you’re like me, you’re not lugging out cookbooks for cooking anyway – you’re squinting at recipes on your phone. That can’t be just me, right?
  5. The Good Wife: I’ve just been so taken with this show. I binge watched it last year to catch up, because people have been talking about it for so long. This isn’t a show for little ears or eyes, but the development of Julianna Marguiles’ character Alicia has been so fascinating to watch. She starts out as this mousy little housewife thrust into the spotlight by her husband’s scandal and emerges as a tough, powerful and respected attorney and political figure.

Happy Friday! What things have you been loving lately?


0 In Dairy Free/ Declan/ Gluten Free/ Nutrition/ Recipe

Almond Butter Chocolate Chip Bars

Today was a big day around here.

Declan got his hair cut. This is normally such a traumatic event (think weeping and gnashing of teeth) that I put it off as long as humanly possible. As in, he begins to look like the child that life forgot when he’s out with the rest of our family. Completely disheveled and forlorn. He was genetically blessed (ha) with my thick, unruly, wavy hair so when it grows too long it starts to poof out like a big mushroom and we all affectionately refer to him as ‘mushroom head’

It really IS affectionately, but after awhile I start to feel bad about how ‘1974 hair cut with a bowl and a pair of scissors in Mom’s kitchen’ he looks. So today I put on my super brave pants and we got ready to head out to the salon. We live in a small town, there are no fancy kids salons like we were used to in Charlotte. I fretted and worried about what cranky stylist would call his name and then assume he was just a brat. I worried no one would understand how legitimately terrified he is of new situations, new people and especially those darn clippers.

I mean y’all. It gets me up in a panic. I get so anxiety ridden about it that I just pretend ‘mushroom head’ is intentional and trendy and stylish and ALL LITTLE BOYS WANT MUSHROOMS OF THEIR OWN.

But today was THE DAY so after a quick little prayer in the kitchen with Daddy, asking for a stylist who would understand Declan, his anxiety and his susceptibility for sensory overload, I braved the salon with Declan and Harper in tow.


I shouldn’t have worried because our stylist was FANTASTIC. I seriously felt like she was a direct answer to prayer, and if you have a child with sensory issues or anxiety you understand where I’m coming from. She was sweet and kind, and chatted him up like he was a grown up client with important things to say. After she sprayed his hair with her water bottle, she let him spray her back and he thought that was the coolest thing ever.

She didn’t roll her eyes at me or dismiss what I had to say. She used the scissors when I explained his fear of the clippers…and Declan was a champ. He answered all her questions about his favorite color, food, and toy. He told her he wanted his hair spiked up in the front like his brother’s. Haha. It was pretty much the most charming he’s ever been in his life and I think he was pretty proud of himself when he was done.almondbars (1)

I don’t bake much anymore, but this – THIS – was a day for baking my friends. Since Declan can’t have gluten, it’s sort of a challenge to find things he can have when it comes to baked goods. Gluten free flours can be tricky (don’t even get me started on coconut flour) and he does better without oats which also really limits my options. Since we are mostly sugar and dairy free as well…

…you see where I’m going here?

But this is a recipe I think anyone would love. I wouldn’t call it “healthy” but it is definitely a health-IER alternative to many other baked goods out there and was a great way to celebrate Declan’s big boy hair cut. Hope you enjoy it too! This recipe is free of: gluten, dairy, refined sugar, eggs and oil. I used a combination of chocolate chips and cacao nibs (affiliate link), but you can do just one or the other if you prefer.

Almond Butter Chocolate Chip Bars


  • 1 cup almond flour
  • 2 T flax seed
  • 1/2 tsp baking powder
  • 1/4 tsp salt
  • 1/4 cup unsweetened applesauce
  • 1/2 cup almond butter, no sugar added
  • 1/8-1/4 cup maple syrup (to taste)
  • 1/4 cup chocolate chips
  • 1/4 cup cacao nibs
  • unsweetened coconut (shredded or flaked)


  1. Preheat the oven to 350 F degrees.
  2. Line a 8X8 square pan with parchment paper or spray it with a non-stick cooking spray. Set aside.
  3. Mix almond butter, maple syrup, applesauce and salt in a bowl.
  4. Add flour, baking powder, flax seeds, chocolate chips and cacao nibs to the wet ingredients and mix.
  5. Pour the mixture into the prepared baking pan.
  6. Sprinkle with chocolate chips and coconut. Press them lightly with back of a spoon.
  7. Bake at 350 F degrees for 20-25 minutes, till edges are golden brown
  8. Cool completely before cutting
  9. Bars will be soft but will harden over time.
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A Day in the Life: Forgiveness (Addiction from the other side)


Todd hit his year sobriety mark recently.

In fact, next weekend will mark one year from the day that I brought the kids to visit him in treatment and God started the arduous process of softening my heart. Even on that day, if you’d told me then where we’d be now I would have wanted to punch you in the throat. Reconciliation was NOT of interest to me, even remotely.

But here we are, and although it’s been over a year – I realize there are some things I’m still struggling with.

I was talking to a friend recently about her marriage and the forgiveness she’s working on for different reasons and she mentioned the story of Hosea and Gomer. Though the story involves Gomer’s repeated infidelity, eventually hitting her rock bottom and Hosea restoring her as his wife, it’s really an incredible tale of forgiveness and grace. A look into the unconditional love of Jesus.

I found myself feeling kind of prickly at first. All kinds of “yeah, buts…” rolled through my veins. I think I bristle up at the idea that people need to forgive mistreatment in the name of Christ. Being in relationship with someone in active addiction is deeply traumatic and I do feel strongly that in many situations it is necessary to seek safety or to leave tumultuous relationships. I mentioned this to my friend, who quickly agreed and then said, “Maybe you’re confusing tolerance with forgiveness”

I’ve thought about this a lot since then – at first I didn’t feel like I was. I now know there are things I don’t have to tolerate. I truly DO believe in extending forgiveness as I, myself, have been forgiven. I feel that pretty intensely in my head. I believe that deep in the recesses of my heart (ok, maybe not SO deep in the recesses…) is ugliness and sin and all kinds of things that I need to be forgiven for as well. In my head, I know that I can’t pull a trump card.

So I couldn’t figure out exactly why I was having a hard time reconciling my head with my heart. How come I can’t make my heart get to that place of forgiveness?

God is funny, the way he weaves people’s stories in and out of my life – the way he brings me to women who have such wisdom and insight and beauty. I’ve stumbled across a couple of stories this week that have really gotten me thinking and praying.

Yesterday it was raining here (again), so I piled all the kiddos into the car and we drove the 59 minutes to the closest Target where we wandered around for awhile. The little boys watched Peppa Pig on the DVD player and I was alone in my thoughts for the drive. I realized that my issue with forgiveness isn’t just about Todd’s sin or mistakes being worse than mine. Don’t get me wrong – sure, there are many times I have to fight the temptation to feel superior about my actions vs his actions and struggle with wanting to compare my behavior over the last 6 years to his. But it’s not that, not really.

I am scared to forgive.

I am scared because forgiveness and reconciliation require vulnerability. To forgive someone you don’t see often or won’t see again is one thing. But to forgive someone who you spend every day with requires the ability to put yourself directly in the path of being hurt again. It’s a terrifying place to be. I’ve realized that I don’t want to forgive completely because there is a deep rooted fear in me of being hurt again, of looking stupid, of realizing I was wrong.

If I keep my heart just a little bit hardened, and only knock down the very top of my walls – just enough so my eyes can peek out – it feels mostly safe there. If I can keep my grasp mostly tightened around the remnants of my anger, as justified as I am, no one can get to me. No one can hurt me.

To truly forgive someone is more than just saying it.

It means putting myself out there, vulnerable and exposed but confident in my identity as a daughter of God. It’s saying someone or something has no hold over me, because my identity is not found in those things or that other person. It’s giving my spouse the power to really mess me up and break my heart, but doing it anyway because I know God is greater and bigger and better and He can work all things for good.

To forgive Todd means to trust someone who will let me down, because he is human just as I am human – but doing it anyway because God is present in every second of every minute of every hour of my day and He is the one I must ultimately trust. We think that being a Christian and saying we love like Jesus will keep us safe. Like there’s some kind of protective Christian pixie dust that gets sprinkled on top of us and keeps us in a shiny bubble. But it doesn’t y’all. It’s not safety we should idolize. We are NOT safe if we love like Christ. Loving like Jesus is dangerous and radical and anything but safe.

The boys are going through a phase of “I can’t…” right now. I started telling them, “You can do all things in Christ who strengthens you” in response. It was sort of a joke at first, mostly because they were saying I can’t to silly things. (Please pick up your toys. I can’t. You can do all things in Christ who strengthens you’) but it’s a good reminder to myself.

It requires strength to be vulnerable. And I can be vulnerable, because I am His.

I can do all things in Christ who strengthens me.

Our 6 year anniversary is coming up. I spent last year pregnant, alone and sad. This year Todd suggested we celebrate.

I think we will.


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Lemon Tahini Dressing


Lemon tahini dressing


I’ve been eating a ton of salads lately – like every single day for lunch – and it’s so hard to find a pre-made dressing with good ingredients that I often smash avocado up in my greens and then squeeze fresh lemon juice on top. And truly, I love this alternative to salad dressing.

But I have a serious obsession with tahini and we use it all the time for homemade hummus, so it only makes sense to put it to good use in a dressing too. I first started making lemon tahini dressing several years ago – I feel like it’s one of those things I do in short little obsessive phases. Tell me I’m not the only one like this? I was on a lemon tahini kick for months, and then I’ll move on. It’s probably exactly why I make something for dinner once or twice and then forget about it. I think we can blame Pinterest for that. Too many possibilities to be distracted by.

Anyway, this is a super simple variation of several dressing recipes out there but it’s my favorite – it’s got a great tang from the fresh lemon. I hope you like it too!


Lemon Tahini Dressing


  • 3 Tblsp extra virgin olive oil
  • 1/4 c. + 2 Tblsp tahini
  • juice of 3 lemons
  • 1+ T of water (depending on the consistency you like)
  • generous pinch of garlic powder
  • generous pinch of sea salt


  1. Blend in blender or small food processor until creamy, add water for desired consistency. Garlic, salt and other spices to taste! Store in airtight container in the refrigerator for up to 5 days.
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I love this recipe because it is so easy to customize and adjust to your liking. One of my favorite bloggers uses nutritional yeast in hers. I’ve seen some add red pepper flakes or cayenne. Play around with it!




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